To Have First Look or Not: Advice From a Wedding Photographer
Planning your wedding is such an exciting time full of anticipation! From selecting the perfect venue to choosing your wedding flowers, there are so many things that need careful consideration. The decisions, however, can start to feel never-ending!
One very important decision is choosing whether or not to have a “first look.” While there really is no right or wrong decision, there are some pros and cons you should consider when planning your wedding day timeline and how you want to spend your time on your wedding day. Today I want to discuss the pros and cons of a first look with my advice as a wedding photographer.
What is a First Look, Anyway?
For those who aren't familiar, a first look is a pre-ceremony moment where the couple sees each other for the first time before saying their "I dos." Instead of waiting at the altar, you arrange a private meeting, usually captured by your photographer, to capture the authentic reactions and emotions of seeing each other for the first time. It's like having your very own sneak peek before the main event.
Nicole and Bryan’s First Look at Steele Hill Resort in Sanbornton, NH.
Reasons You Should Have A First Look
Time with Your Partner
Let’s face it, your wedding day is a whirlwind! Sometimes you don’t realize how quickly the day will go by and the moments of just you and your partner are actually few and far between. Having a first look provides a really intentional time to experience the joy and excitement of your day without anyone else around! It’s a genuine moment that belongs solely to the two of you to feel more relaxed and connected throughout the day.
Capture Authentic Emotions
Every first look I have ever photographed has been so emotional! When you both see each other dressed up and ready to say “I do” the moment is always so beautiful and heartwarming. Some argue that it takes away from the moment of seeing each other as you walk down the aisle, but I have found that to be true. It is more like you get two!
Time Management
In my opinion, one of the best things about having a first look before your wedding ceremony is that it allows for more flexibility and time for your wedding photos. When you are your partner see each other before the ceremony, your portraits with each other, your bridal party, and your families can be done ahead of time. There is no need to rush and can even allow for photos in multiple locations if you wish. You then have time to mingle with guests at the cocktail hour and reception and get to enjoy your day without rushing around!
Marissa & Garrett’s First Look at the Groton Inn before their Gibbet Hill Wedding.
Keeping with tradition and Skipping the First Look
A first look is not for everyone, and that is ok! If you and your partner hold traditional values close to your heart, foregoing the first look may be the way to go.
For some, the magic of the ceremony lies in the anticipation and grand reveal as you are walking down the aisle. Your family and friends will get to witness you seeing each other for the first time, which adds an extra layer of excitement and romance. Candid shots of both of your reactions as your walk down the aisle will be truly magical.
Depending on your venue and timeline for the day, it may make perfect sense to skip the first look and spend time taking portraits together after the ceremony. It is important for you both to think about your preferences and do what makes the most sense for you!
Jenn & Brian’s wedding at The Villa at Ridder Country Club in East Bridgewater, MA as a second shooter with Tamara Merri Photography.
Alternatives to a First Look
If you and your partner are adamant about skipping the first look and keeping with tradition, there are many alternatives to consider that help create a more flexible photography timeline and create intentional moments in your day.
Some alternatives are:
First look with your father
First look with your mom
First look with your wedding party
First “touch” with your partner
Creating time for the people closest to you to see you ready to walk down the aisle is so special! Consider doing a first look with the other people surrounding you with love on your wedding day. The reactions of your closest friends and parents are always priceless! These first looks do not take a long time, but will be remembered for many years to come!
If you and your partner don’t want to see each other, consider doing a first touch instead. You can take a moment to hold hands around a corner or read vows privately to each other without actually seeing each other before the ceremony. It is important to talk to your photographer and wedding coordinator about your ideas to make it happen!
Steph’s first look with her father in their family home before her wedding at the Popponesset Inn in Plymouth, MA.
Ultimately, the choice of whether or not to have a first look on your wedding day is entirely up to you and your partner. Consider your personalities, wedding day timeline preferences, and the overall vibe you want for your special day. Whether you opt for a modern twist or a classic approach, what truly matters is that you're embarking on a lifelong journey together.
Remember, the memories created on your wedding day will be priceless, no matter how you choose to see each other for the first time. Cheers to love, happiness, and the adventures that lie ahead!
